Middle aged gay men

Are my photos sexy or cringe? Underneath the boredom or light depression is a rich world of feelings and a new vision waiting to be discovered.

For most men, the first half of life is about building a life and building the world. HIV/AIDS robbed too many of these men of their futures in what should have been the prime of their lives.

I'm also a father to two grown children. Then I realized — I could write my own damn definition.”

The Truth About Gay Dating After 50:

Every dating app, bar, and social space seems designed for younger men. What if I died and no one ever knew the real me? And suddenly, I realized my age wasn’t a liability.

Do I want hookups or a relationship? “The one you think doesn’t matter. You might even have the boyfriend. “The lighting that flatters our skin. When I could no longer carry the burden of the closet, the rainbow world I came out into was different from what I expected, but I found my place eventually.

I'm happy to say that I have been in a relationship with my partner, Jack, for more than two years now, and I am very happy.

You made friends.

Now? It’s my sanctuary of sensuality.”

The Truth About Our Spaces After 50:

Every client who logs in for their online sessions thinks they need to hide signs of aging in their home.

But here’s what years of therapy work has shown: our spaces can either reinforce shame or celebrate our sexuality.

The choice is ours.

Here’s What That Really Means:

Take Stephen’s journey:

• Felt apologetic about his aging body at home

• Transformed his bedroom into a “sanctuary of sensuality”

• Designed spaces that celebrate mature sexuality

• Now helps other men reimagine their environments

“Every element has intention,” Stephen explains.

Sometimes it leads to sex, sometimes to friendship, sometimes to both. The external takes most of our energy and commitment.

In the second half of life, men often start to pay more attention to the internal realm to figure out what is within that sustains and inspires us.

The roadmap, which was so clear during the first half, is more confusing and diffuse in the second half.

I worried they'd think our marriage had been a sham.

When I told my children — who were 22 and 18 at the time — they were basically like, "Oh, OK. What's for dinner?" In their world, it simply doesn't matter whether a person is gay or straight. It may start with a litany of fears like “I’m too fat”, “I’m too old”, or “I’m not good enough.”

Fortunately, you can tap into support when the mid-life experience becomes bewildering, depressing or painful.

Turn Your Body’s Changes into Your Allies

Meet Mark, 63, former personal trainer who revolutionized his relationship with his changing body.

“I used to bench 250 pounds. During that long journey of grief and single parenthood, I had a few more relationships with women; I even married again, briefly.

During all those years, I knew what I was and what I really wanted, but I kept the secret and never acted on it.

I didn't want to die in the pandemic and have no one ever know the truth about me

By spring 2020, my youngest was graduating from high school, and I was approaching the empty nest.

The many months of pandemic lockdowns allowed me the perspective to reevaluate my past and steer my future.

Be prepared to possibly spend more money than you accounted for when you discover that you’re not only responsible to pay for your own drinks, but to cover the tab of the hottie you’re hoping to hook up with. That meant navigating dating apps was an adventure, and avoiding the traps of impossible body standards and weird hookup culture was not easy.

There was so much I didn't know.