Gay urban dictionary terms

Chaser

A “chaser” is a term used to describe a gay man who is attracted to larger or muscular men, often referred to as “bears” or “cubs”. Ring snatcher (n.) – during sex, the person who performs the bottom role. Sappho Daddy-o (n.) – gay male who enjoys the company of lesbians, similar to “Fruit Fly” for straight women.

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But it's still part of gay culture, and understanding it helps us navigate the community.

Final Thoughts

Gay slang is part of our culture, but it's not required. Zanie (n.) – archaic 19th century phrase referring to a male homosexual

51. Eyeball queen (n.) – person who derives pleasure from watching others engage in intercourse.

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Bulldagger (n.) – a masculine woman, closely related to “butch lesbian.” Also see: “Diesel lesbian,” term referring to queer women who look like truck drivers.

5. Saturday Night Lesbian (n.) – term for lesbians who present themselves as heterosexual on their normal weekdays and may be in the closet to friends and co-workers.

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It can also refer to someone who embraces a more laid-back and easygoing lifestyle.

• For example, someone might say, “He’s a total bear, with his big beard and strong build.”
• In a conversation about body types, a person might say, “I’m more attracted to bears than twinks.”
• A gay man might proudly identify as a bear and say, “I love being a bear, it’s part of my identity.”

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Zipper club (n.) – a sex party or orgy that takes place in a public area, like a bathhouse or a bar.

Note: Autostraddle has a great list of lady-centric queer phrases, some of which were included here. Ursula (n.) – queer woman who hangs out with “bears;” also called a “Goldilocks.”

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Twink

A “twink” is a term used to describe a young and attractive gay man.

Horatian (n.) – from the late 19th century, term used at Oxford amongst Lord Byron and his compatriots to refer to a bisexual person; see also: “Gillette blade,” referring to a bisexual female.

18. Wendy (n.) – a Caucasian person.

46. But understanding it helps us connect with our community and express ourselves.

Remember:

You don't have to use every term

You can create your own language

You can change over time

You're valid regardless of how you speak

The real takeaway? Gay slang is part of gay culture, but it doesn't define you.

Mother Superior (n.) – older and wiser gay male who has been around the block a few times; similar to “auntie,” but more favorable.

29. Nine-dollar bill (n.) – extremely outward homosexual, one three-times more flaming than someone who is “queerer than a three-dollar bill.”

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Lucky Pierre (n.) – the middleman in an Eiffel Tower.

27. It is derived from the stereotype that gay men are effeminate or flamboyant, similar to the stereotype of fruits being colorful and sweet.

• For instance, someone might say, “Look at that fruit over there, he’s so flamboyant.”
• In a homophobic conversation, a person might use the term fruit to insult someone’s masculinity, saying, “He’s such a fruit, he can’t be a real man.”
• It’s important to note that using this term is offensive and disrespectful, and it perpetuates harmful stereotypes about gay men.